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Sometimes it is easier said than done but these are a few techniques that I have found useful when something is weighing heavily on my mind, interfering with sleep, occupying far more space than it deserves even during daylight hours when my mind would best be put to use in a more effective way. The main question I ask myself is what if anything can I do immediately to resolve the situation. If the answer is nothing then I have to let it go. If the answer is doable then I do it, or set a plan to conquer it if it is complex. Very often there is a simple solution but the solution is elusive or too complicated. Letting it brew – but only in the Back of my Mind is what works best for me …
My friend Jean Ann French posted this story on her Facebook page –
The carpenter I hired to help me restore an old farmhouse had just finished a rough first day on the job. A flat tire made him lose an hour of work, his electric saw quit, and then his old pickup truck refused to start.
While I drove him home, he sat in stony silence. On arriving, he invited me in to meet his family. As we walked toward the front door, he paused briefly at a small tree, touching the tips of the branches with both hands. When opening the door he underwent an amazing transformation. His tanned face was wreathed in smiles and he hugged his two small children and gave his wife a kiss.
“Oh, that’s my trouble tree,” he replied. “I know I can’t help having troubles on the job, but one thing is for sure, troubles don’t belong in the house with my wife and children. So I just hang them up on the tree every night when I come home. Then in the morning I pick them up again.”
“The funny thing is,” he smiled, “when I come out in the morning to pick them up, there aren’t nearly as many as I remember hanging up the night before.”
Everybody needs a trouble tree..
If I was told
“Rewrite your life,”
I would not edit it.
Instead I’d glorify
The good and
Cross out the negative.
The red line strikes
Would be so few,
The words allowed to flow
To tell great stories
Deep and true and still
Allow for sorrow.
It’s challenges that make
Me proud, and they
Are overcome, and
When left to steep
In time and sleep,
Illuminate me some.
The dawn breaks gently
On the pain.
Now so much time has passed
And that filing cabinet,
Oh so precious,
Has numbered out and slashed.
The drawers remain
So full and bursting,
But the folders
Marked with ‘L’
Hold love and laughter,
Life and longing.
There are no such things in hell!
&
Reroute those thoughts.
Reroute that fear
And all that don’t belong
And fill that drawer’s capacity
To hear the angel’s song.
The day seems clearer
Than the night.
And so it’s meant to be
That the systems of our thought processes
Are meant to let us see.
And hide I won’t
Nor strike – nor cover
The past cannot be buried
But rather used to rectify
And give us back the power.
Power fragile – power strong,
Power wide and far,
Power making offerings
Of gentleness, desire…
Knowledge deep and
Knowledge clear
Become our legacy,
A legacy that holds no boundaries.
It’s made of you and me.
The Circles of Life – Monoprint 2011
Does anyone have any other great tricks to allow for the mind to rest? I know I have several … the best being Get the Heck out of your Current Environment! Can anyone else hear the Ocean calling?
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bodhisattvaintraining said:
Can’t calm my mind at the moment…can’t settle to meditation even..just getting through the days 😦
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Books & Art - Spirit & Soul - Lesley Fletcher said:
I am so sincerely sorry to hear that. It is so frustrating to be in your shoes right now, I imagine. I hope you will find your peace soon and let us all know how you managed to get through this very difficult time. Do you have someone you can speak to… someone who will listen and be able to guide you on your journey?
Sending light and love your way (to you and your daughter) – today, tomorrow and the next and next …
Please remember you are not alone.
Hugs, Les
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bodhisattvaintraining said:
Thank you Les, I appreciate that so much. Tomorrow we meet with another specialist and will ask about counselling within their unit. Daughter has found an association support group – and we’ll go to their meeting next week..
x annie
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Sarah Chybrzynski said:
This is so great! I loved the story about the man who used the trouble tree. What a simple yet beautiful story to really make you think. The techniques you listed after the story are great too! Today I made sure to hang up my troubles by meditating, relaxing from the toes up, and hanging with animals and friends. Thanks!
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Books & Art - Spirit & Soul - Lesley Fletcher said:
That story should be taught in schools ! Thanks Sarah, it sounds as though we have much in common. 🙂
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silentlyheardonce said:
i use to orientate Home Health Aides. I use to tell them before they walk in the patient’s home to take what ever problems they were having and put them in a bag, and leave it outside the patient’s door. When they leave they can pick it back up if they choose. Thanks for reminding me of this. I think I write something for my grandson about this.
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Books & Art - Spirit & Soul - Lesley Fletcher said:
Happy to have prompted a need for passing this trick on.
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valeriedavies said:
Lesley, a wonderful post – loved the story of your workman, and your poem was beautiful, profound and deeply thought provoking.
I have two tricks to bring me peace – one to imagine I’m looking back from a thousand years hence, and things seem small and easy to resolve from that perspective.,.
The other is what sends me to sleep, and that’s listing everything I’m thankful for in my day, from the people, the birds, the food, the sea.. whatever has made me feel happy during the day. So often I never get to the end of the gratitude list before I’m asleep, so I have to wake up and finish the list in the night!
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Books & Art - Spirit & Soul - Lesley Fletcher said:
I absolutely love these ideas Valerie. I used the grateful one yesterday as I drove a common route but with mindfulness. What a difference it makes. Thank you – thank you.
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coastalcrone said:
Very good advice! The best thing for me to do to get my mind off of troubles is to get busy – clean something, go pull weeds, go for a run. Good post!
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Books & Art - Spirit & Soul - Lesley Fletcher said:
Yes – I agree that busy is great. You seem to be a very strong person. I think perhaps your coping strategies have helped achieve that!
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Linda Willows said:
Great Post, Lesley!
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Books & Art - Spirit & Soul - Lesley Fletcher said:
Thank you Linda – Have a wonderful, peaceful weekend. xx
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catnipoflife said:
Lesley, this is a great post…so many messages for one to “put into action!” I can definitely hear the ocean calling but not close enough to visit on a regular basis:>) I’ll just grab a cup of coffee and sit in the rocking chair on the back porch. The birds are singing and a couple even checking out the new birdhouse hubby just put up in the back yard. The cats are scampering after a field mouse, stopping occasionally to let it rest…yep! They play with it and eventually it makes it across the yard into the field. The sun is shining and a nice breeze lets you know autumn has arrived!
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Books & Art - Spirit & Soul - Lesley Fletcher said:
You took me there Sharla – enjoy!
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marymforbes said:
Such wonderful advice Lesley. Everyone should read this. Thanks. 🙂
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Books & Art - Spirit & Soul - Lesley Fletcher said:
You’re welcome Mary. I needed a refresher course too!
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Kim-Lee P. said:
I love this post…thanks so much for sharing.
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Books & Art - Spirit & Soul - Lesley Fletcher said:
Many thanks Kim-Lee – what do you do to calm the mind?
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Kim-Lee P. said:
Well, a number of things …I especially like to sing, but I’ll also write stories, poetry, or sometimes I’ll call up a good friend who I can trust to quietly vent my troubles away. They know that I just need to clear and calm my mind…so they don’t need to offer any solutions ..just listen. Of course, when they need it, I’m also there for them. And when all else fails, quiet meditation in my room with a bit of music or just the sounds of the birds outside helps at lot! 🙂
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Books & Art - Spirit & Soul - Lesley Fletcher said:
Wonderful ways – and it sounds like your friends are special (rare to find the ones who will just listen) 🙂
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